During my late night browsing of Facebook, I happened upon a friend’s status post that I found I could really relate to on a personal level. It just simply read ” being ignored hurts ” . I just remember reading it and thinking… yes …yes it REALLY does.
Let’s face it . The silent treatment SUCKS . I would rather get into a screaming match or deal with someone overly emotional than nothing. You can’t have a discussion with silence. You can’t try to come to an understanding with silence. You can’t do ANYTHING with silence. This is actually considered a form of torture.
While reading this article I found in heysigmund.com : http://www.heysigmund.com/the-silent-treatment/
I found that an in depth study on the subject had been done by Paul Schrodt, PhD which involved more than 14,000 participants which revealed that the “silent treatment is ‘tremendously’ damaging to a relationship. It decreases relationship satisfaction for both partners, diminishes feelings of intimacy, and reduces the capacity to communicate in a way that’s healthy and meaningful.”
I mean think about it … what can you really GAIN from doing this to a person? Think of it in even the context of a business relationship. You throw each other the silent treatment because of some argument. Then as you stop talking to each other nothing gets done , your business suffers. Same can be said of friends or relationships. IT JUST DOESN’T HELP!
Pulling from my own experience, there is nothing that hurts me more.I was bullied as a child and unpopular in school so I was often ignored or left out of activities.
Being given the silent treatment really hurts me. I don’t like being made to feel like I am unwanted or beneath someone’s notice. It’s a sure fire way to make me cry. It makes me feel like I don’t belong.I want to belong, I want to FEEL noticed.
Overall this status post really struck a chord with me because I have BEEN there . often . No one deserves to feel that way. No one should be hurt in that way. Can’t we all talk to one another ?
In the words of Karen of heysigmund.com:
“Being noticed is so close to being loved, that sometimes they feel the same.
Being ignored is just as powerful”
Please let me know your thoughts in the comments below.